over-eager parents

'Over eager' Parents

Parents- the word represents heavyweight connotation. It ushers us into the world of pure love and dedication wherein we want to see our ‘extensions’ bloom into ‘worthwhile’ adults-fair enough! But I have a problem with the usage of “selfless” love for this bond and believe me this conviction only gets strengthened when I look around.

Let me share an interesting perspective. I enrolled my 4-year old in a football academy. My intention was to give him some time where he could really ENJOY himself. Retreat from everyday mechanical menaces! I was happy and he was delighted for he loves all kinds of outdoor activities which have become a luxury in our metro areas! There was no impetus on being a ‘performing monkey’ here.


I thought I missed the point and maybe I had enrolled my kid with some professional club. I re-checked but no it was a regular academy for 4-5 years old.


Everything looked uncomplicated. But these glad tidings were short-lived. As strangely I didn’t see any resonance of the same around. I saw mothers shouting at their kids and the football coach in them seemed to have taken over totally- gave instructions, clapped frantically at every goal and used expletives at any failing! I thought I missed the point and maybe I had enrolled my kid with some professional club. I re-checked but no it was a regular academy for 4-5 years old. I almost felt tempted to give in and a doubt hovered around me as I didn’t feel a capable mother enough in the din, but thank God I could see a smiling radiant face of my child from across the din! I just couldn’t tamper with it! I couldn't let the devil -horns to take over the angelic halo I could see on my little soul.

I firmly think that we as parents see our reflection in kids and want to re-claim our stint at our past failures or misgivings of past. We don’t want them to learn their lessons on their own but ‘impose’ our self-made lessons on their tender minds. This is being selfish to the core but just to relieve the harshness we are being ‘over-eager’ parents!

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Jayanti Ramnath Posted on Sep 28, 2017

very well said....i agree that most of the time, we , parents are on the race to somehow potray to the world that our kid is a prodigy in all fields of activities,not realising whether our kid is actually ready to be one. We should allow the kids to enjoy and learn than pushing them to excel always.

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