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Raising Tweens

Raising a kid is a big challenge and every phase comes with its own set of challenges. But the trickiest part comes when a kid reaches 12-13! That’s the real test! Test of patience, perseverance and tactfulness on the parents’ part.

But the trickiest part comes when a kid reaches 12-13!

Though the trick of the trade sounds simple, believe me it drains you out. It requires series of hit and trial skills to basically hit on the elusive idea of raising an ideal child (as per your parameters). But before I just dwell onto the miseries of a parent it won’t be really fair not to take into account the ‘raging hormones’ sounding a bugle inside the tweens fast-changing body.

They have their own battles to take care of -trying to create a niche for their individual self and accepting the physical changes the adulthood is bringing along. The detachment part from clinging to their parent shell towards an independent persona requires lot of effort as the change is bounded by confusion and at the same time assertion. A tween gets stuck between the two!

This is the time when a parent has to bring in the clarity. Even though they would rebel, fact of the matter is that they would slowly and steadily settle into the norm set by you. Faith is the greatest support here!


We are seeing a spurt in the juvenile crime as the distance between the parent and the child is increasing due to total lack of empathy from the either side. One needs to build up this empathy and the onus here lies with the parent.


We are seeing a spurt in the juvenile crime as the distance between the parent and the child is increasing due to total lack of empathy from the either side. One needs to build up this empathy and the onus here lies with the parent. We have to be firm and understanding- open channels of communication (even if one-sided) have to be preserved. This allows the tween to know that there is a means of support for him-he is ‘wanted’ inspite of his wandering misadventures.

                                         But the trickiest part comes when a kid reaches 12-13!

But remember trying to please them by surrendering to their every whim and fancy will only lead you to a thankless adult with no reverence for the hard work and you. Don’t make everything easy but reward their every effort!

These are just some of the tips that might help a parent but yes keep on innovating and a very HAPPY PARENTING!

Comments (19)

Snigdha Prusti Posted on Dec 21, 2017

This is a great post.. Kids /tweens should be rewarded for their every effort and that will increase the self confidence in them.

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Papri Ganguly Posted on Dec 21, 2017

This tips are really helping \r\n Thanks for sharing with us.

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Ar. Shivali Singla Posted on Dec 21, 2017

Everyone wether he is a kid or grown up deserves a reward to keep the motivation going I think. Lovely tips here.

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Minakshi Bajpai Posted on Dec 21, 2017

Indeed! Raising kids is not an easy thing, and being a parent, we should make them learn the value of money and everything. Let them know nothing should be taken as granted. Rewarding them is the best way to do it. \r\n

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Abhinav Singh Posted on Dec 21, 2017

You have discussed so many issues deftly. Kudos to your inimitable writing skills.

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Anamika Debnath Posted on Dec 21, 2017

I\'m absolutely agree with you. The tween years can be difficult for both kids and parents. This transition period needs some extra care.

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Alexx Bloom Posted on Dec 20, 2017

Being mother of two is really tiring thing but still it\'s fun when you have twin cuties with you to smile with

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Preetjyot Kaur Posted on Dec 20, 2017

I just loved reading this. It is so essential to reward your kids for the effort they put in various situations.

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Minakshi Bajpai Posted on Dec 20, 2017

I agree with you. It ia necessary to make kids realize that everything has a worth and shouldn\'t be taken as granted.

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Snehalata Posted on Dec 20, 2017

I\'m sure u had a tough time but u did it smiling ,that\'s happy parenting

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Snehalata Posted on Dec 20, 2017

I\'m sure u had a tough time but u did it smiling ,that\'s happy parenting

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Nisha Malik Posted on Dec 20, 2017

It is ironic that gap between parents and kids is increasing every generation. As kids grow up things can get worse. Your tips are really practical and I appreciate you for writing this wonderful article.

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Jhilmil Posted on Dec 20, 2017

So true, pleasing them and even rewarding them at every task should not be an approach to raise kids. They should understand the effort of a task for sure.

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Dipika Singh Posted on Dec 20, 2017

Very well pointed, the crux of the problem as well as solution is in handling it. Balancing the act by parents is really important. But then how much to balance out? this entirely depends on the equations between both the parties. \r\nVery important topic.. it\'s crucial to think and strive a balance.

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Prerna Sinha Posted on Dec 20, 2017

So nicely defined, I myself a having two sons and my elder one is about to get into his teenage, much-needed blog, thanks for sharing!

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Www.flavorsofworld.com Posted on Dec 20, 2017

Raising Tweens is the most difficult job i think but your tips helps a lot

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Ruchi Verma Posted on Dec 20, 2017

These are such useful and great tips!!

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Roshni Parate Posted on Dec 19, 2017

This tips are so amazing thanks for those tips it will help me one day for sure.

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Sangeeta Posted on Dec 19, 2017

Rightly said that kids or tweens need to be rewarded for their effort. This will teach them the value of things, patience, how to behave in society, etc.

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Sabeen Beg

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