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The Art of Overpowering Anger

Our friends are so much to the left, so much to the left that they seem to be on the right”, thundered V K Krishna Menon, the first Indian High Commissioner to the UK, taking a dig on all his comrades. His action slowly swinging his hand from the left to the right as he uttered this statement was powerful enough to express his anger against them.

Indeed, a single word or a solitary gesticulation would suffice to convey this latent feeling – “anger” in any of us. We often see how a small child to an old grandfather, a peon to the chief of the organization, anybody for that matter irrespective of his status could use this expression to get his work done whether intentional or unintentional.

Anger overpowers us and the realization of having been angry, dawns on us a little later. At times, someone needs to let us know about our outburst, which invariably puts us on a denial mode. Occasionally such a feedback helps us to transform for the better, provided we have an open mind to rewind and reflect. But all of us justify the intention behind our anger, in the best sophisticated manner despite receiving valuable inputs from trusted sources in close quarters.

Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism. It could be seen in an individual or a Anger needs to be squarely seen, observed, and understoodcollective form. While it is common to see anger in individuals and their voices, societies, communities or even nations could express their anger towards a conflicting force, tendency, or principle. Left to itself, anger is never a starting point of action, but always reactionary in nature. We must see the opposite of what we had expected for anger to be triggered in us. Most of the time, we do make a remark that had we not been in the situation that we were privy to, we would not have possibly reacted angrily as we did. The take-off of the emotion was therefore not necessarily planned and could have been avoided if we had been careful and smart about handling ourselves.

While much has been discussed about anger management or control, unless an individual, society or a nation is willing to sit back, introspect and dig out the actual reason behind any subject or a feeling that could be provocative enough, it would not be surprising of them to react in the way they did.

Anger needs to be squarely seen, observed, and understood. It would be wise to hold back and not let go off this strong emotion since the reactionary process back and forth could land back negatively on us. At the same time, it is neither fair nor reasonable to control and suppress or tolerate injustice. Thus, one should choose “ to be in anger” only in the need of the hour. It is recalled that Lord Rama chose anger as his weapon to bring the King of the Ocean to his knees when he did not part ways to allow him to cross over to Lanka to win over Ravana and get back his beloved Sita.

On Shravan Poornima, people chant “Kamokarsheet Manyurakarsheet Namo Namaha which means those acts committed out of desire (kama) and anger (manyu) need to be pardoned and forgiven. We observe that these qualities – desire and anger are raised to a special status and salutations offered to them, reminding us to be careful and vigilant for not committing any further misdeeds. We can chant this as a part of our daily prayer to help us control anger and desire.

Aristotle rightly said - Anybody can become angry-that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.

Comments (22)

Indu Srimal Posted on Sep 16, 2018

I truly agree, anger spoils every good things in our life , meditation helps me a lot in managing anger and all

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Shyam Kumar Posted on Sep 13, 2018

\'NEVER BURST BALLOONS WITH MISSILES\' our anger is one of the most important weapon in our arsenal. I would rather use the word channelize rather than management for anger. To correct your child, to prevent a repeat of a mistake at office or anywhere, to etch your likes and dislikes permenantly (especially with a close one), to emphasize your point in a debate, to wriggle out of tight situation, the list is endless. Yes it\'s a missile and must be used wisely to prevent it from being destructive. \r\nAkrodhen jayet krodham which means Anger can be won over by remaining cool ( I would add being cool in anger too)

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Papri Ganguly Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Great and useful tips. I have to share this with hubby dear. He needs to read this post. Thanks for sharing

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Prerna Sinha Posted on Sep 11, 2018

So tough but Charu. I remind myself every time I deal with my tween that I need to control my anger, my impulse but tend to lose resolve each time.

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Nisha Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Sometimes it\'s very hard to control anger specially while dealing with kids. But in long run its harmful. Thanks for this article.. It really addresses the root cause of anger.

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Airene Guha Posted on Sep 11, 2018

This post is really helpful, I\'ve an anger management problem and but I\'v learned to control Anger is truly your worse enemy

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Prerna Sinha Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Anger creates a totally different person out of yourself. You become something that you are not and so things that you don\'t mean to.

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Snigdha Prusti Posted on Sep 11, 2018

It is important to get control over your emotion . Anger issue is really an important issue and we should get control over this.

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Rumana Jauhar Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Anger has been my biggest enemy it harms us more than others.. This is a great post

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Jiya Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Anger leaves you in no where . but to control on it requires lot of practice. I must say even I loose temper a lot. your post has given me so good tips .

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Priyanka Lodha Patwari Posted on Sep 11, 2018

it’s up to us to control anger in order to live safe and happy lives. Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone.. very nice post

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Mrinal Kiran Posted on Sep 11, 2018

I have been so frustrated since yesterday and I have been getting angry on anything and everything! This post was the positivity I needed! Thanks!

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Reetuparna Saha Posted on Sep 11, 2018

I needed to read this. True that it is not easy to show justified anger, we need to practice controlling anger to the best possible extent. Maybe that way one day, wisdom will prevail over anger!

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Hema Posted on Sep 11, 2018

This is a very powerful post. Ioved the way you have presented it. Anger is our worst enemy and we all should find a way to get a hold of it

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Neha Jain Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Thank you for sharing this with me..but having control over your emotions is much important

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Varsh Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Aristotle\'s line is the last is the perfect summary of this post. Anger can be controlled, but probably not always. We can however make sure that it doesn\'t put anyone in harm\'s way.

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Jhilmil Bhansali Posted on Sep 11, 2018

The words by aristotle if really thought on for few momentsleqves you with so many questions wrt anger behaviour. It\'s true that most of us find reasons of us showing such behaviour.

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Nidhi Km Posted on Sep 11, 2018

That\'s a great tip. We all should ensure to get angry only a certain degree while keeping up with our physical state

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Ruchi Verma Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Anger can destroy anything I found best way to come out of it is dancing and trust me helping me a lot


Sonam Posted on Sep 11, 2018

Sometimes people are not ready to accept that they have anger issues. Even a sudden burst of anger, even for the shortest duration needs to be looked into. Great post!


Purva Bhatia Posted on Sep 10, 2018

Wel,l, it is an art most of us hope to perfect. I think Aristotle has summed it up really well. We all get angry...but to be angry at the right person at the right time is not easy.

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Sandeep Posted on Sep 10, 2018

The root of all Anger is Pain. Our pain comes to us in a physical or emotional sense. Knowing and acknowledging this pain is key in beginning to heal it.

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